How to stop overthinking: what actually helps

Quick answer

Overthinking usually means going over the same thoughts again and again without getting closer to an answer. People who got a handle on it rarely say they found one trick.

They describe a few small habits that interrupt the loop: getting the thought out of their head, giving it a time and place, and moving their body or hands. Here's what they say works.

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Why your brain keeps looping

Per a clinical psychologist writing in The Conversation, overthinking tends to start with what she calls hot thoughts, worries about something that already happened or might happen. Because neither is happening right now, you can't fix it, so the mind keeps replaying it. She adds that loops get worse at night and when you're stressed, tired or run down.

What overthinkers say helped most

Write it down. The most common tip is to put the worry on paper, then decide you don't need to carry it in your head anymore.
Name it. Saying 'I'm looping again' to yourself makes it easier to step out of the thought.
Give worry a set time. Many people keep a short worry window each day and tell themselves any new worry can wait until then.
Get your hands busy. Walks, cleaning, cooking or anything physical comes up again and again as a way to break the loop.
Ask whether you can act on it. If yes, pick one small step. If no, park it.

A simple three-step approach

The same psychologist suggests a change, accept, and let go approach. Change the thought where you can, by swapping the worst case for a more realistic one. Accept the feeling and the fact that you can't control every outcome.

Then let go of needing to know how it ends, and remember you've handled every hard thing so far. She also suggests planning for one or two of the most likely outcomes, since planning for all of them is just more overthinking.

Agree or disagree: just distract yourself

Some people say the fix is to keep busy so you never have time to think. We partly agree.

Distraction with people and activities you enjoy really does help, and the psychologist lists it too. But if a worry keeps coming back, writing down one action or a time to deal with it is what makes it stop knocking.

Our own tips

Our unusual tip: when a thought loops, write it as a question and set a date to answer it, like 'Should I take the new job? Decide Friday.' A loop is often a decision with no deadline, and giving it one tells your brain it doesn't need to keep reminding you.
Keep a notepad by the bed for night loops, so the thought has somewhere to go besides your head.
Notice when you're feeding the loop with more input, like rereading a message or searching the same worry again, and close the tab.
If overthinking is affecting your sleep, mood or daily life, talking to a professional is a good next step.

Where 125x fits

On 125x, every video in your subscriptions feed comes with a summary: a verdict, 5 takeaways and the spoiler, plus an Actionable tab with steps and a Lessons tab with the bigger ideas. If you watch self-improvement videos about overthinking, the verdict tells you which ones give you a method you can use tonight. See also how to stay present and what to write in a journal.

FAQ: questions people ask

How do I stop overthinking?

Write the thought down, decide whether you can act on it, take one small step if you can, and give anything else a set worry time. Moving your body helps break the loop too.

Why do I overthink at night?

Night is quiet and you're tired, which makes worries feel bigger and harder to let go. A notepad by the bed gives the thought somewhere to go.

Is overthinking the same as rumination?

They're closely linked. Rumination is having the same thoughts on repeat, and overthinking is analyzing them without reaching a solution.

When should I get help for overthinking?

If it's affecting your sleep, appetite, mood or enjoyment of life, it's worth talking to a professional.